When I first started out as a sex therapist thirty years ago, I was taught that difficulty ejaculating was rare, that it was very hard to treat, and that it usually suggested deep-rooted psychological problems. The reality is that difficulty ejaculating is rather common. Feel free to skip ahead if you like. Biologically speaking, an orgasm is simply a reflex.
My boyfriend can't achieve orgasm – the sex is amazing, but I'm worried
Can't Orgasm During Sex? 7 Ways To Let Go And Let Your Partner Pleasure You
Yeah, right. The reality is that male orgasm is not a guarantee. Have you struggled with orgasm for your entire life, or have there been recent changes? Has it been easier to orgasm with certain partners, but not others? Or at certain periods in your life, but not others? Is it situational, or does it happen every time?
What to Do If You or Your Penis-Having Partner Are Having Trouble Coming
I have heard about this before and I asked him if his mother had caught him masturbating when he was younger. He was almost at climax when his mother burst in — and freaked out. Do you think this is why he finds it difficult to 'let go' at the last moment? If so, what is the treatment? Well, he clearly has the well-known condition called delayed ejaculation DE or ejaculatory incompetence.
I've recently started seeing someone on a casual basis and I'm puzzled by something I have never before encountered - he doesn't ejaculate or orgasm! He assures me this is "normal" for him and that he likes our time together. I am very open-minded but it makes me feel strange and I worry he may have some underlying issue that he should get checked out. That said, it makes the sex amazing for me. Having "lasting power" is certainly something many women value in a male sexual partner.