Why is being ordered around in bed so damn hot? I'm about as far from submissive as it gets. But when I am told to lie perfectly still or say something in particular or perform any host of commands in bed, I am instantly turned on. Why is that? What does it say about me? This seems important, and I felt inspired to learn more.
I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!
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One night, after too many whiskey sours, the conversation among a group of my closest friends and I turned to sex. We're not a judge-y group, nor are we bashful when it comes to providing the intimate details of our sex lives. And, yet, when one of my friends revealed that she falls off the orgasmic cliff when her boyfriend calls her a "whore" just as she's about to come, she lowered her eyelids to the table. She seemed almost apologetic. In a really good way.
This can sometimes speak to stereotypical gender roles where a man is supposed to be large and in charge. While most women do not mind this, there are some women who like to change it up a bit and be the ones cracking the whip in the bedroom - pun intended. It is very sexy. Some men flat-out protest the idea of being tied up or subdued and allowing me to do as I please. They tend to insist on taking over and when I protest, there tends to be a bit of struggle of power.