Having sex is a big part of going on vacation for me; though not having it for another week wasn't going to kill me—that was our usual pattern anyway. But the following morning, and every morning thereafter, I was awakened by the sound of boots knocking, followed by cooing in the den over cups of post-coital Folgers. My wife wears earplugs, so she didn't get to hear how beautiful our housemates thought the sunrise was seven mornings in a row. Right, I thought: the bed where we have sex. But that's not what upset me. These two were doing it every single day.
The Only Thing That's Off Limits in Bed - Kevin A. Thompson
He launched into a frustrated tirade as if his feelings had been bottled up for years. My wife was ready to act out any fantasy I could imagine. Both of us had a wild past and our views of sex were shaped by our own experiences and a lot of exposure to porn. We even watched a lot of porn together as a way to spice things up. Jesus taught that to look at another person with lust is to commit adultery in your heart. It was tough to give up, but we both felt like it was the right thing. I know this from my own past struggles with pornography.
My wife keeps saying 'No sex tonight': the spreadsheet that lays it all bare
Before the last break, I give every participant an index card and require them to write something down. No matter what city or region of the country, I generally receive the same questions:. An anonymous question written on a note card provides the opportunity they may not feel free to ask in any other setting. Yet this question also comes up in every single conference simply because it is a question many couples are asking. What is off limits?
And concerning the marital bed, what does God permit? In other words, what is not okay in bed? We read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation and compiled a list of every scriptural reference to sex. As we reviewed our list it became apparent that God gives tremendous sexual freedom within the marriage relationship. But God also sets forth some prohibitions that we must honor.